What Does It Mean To Be A Mom?
So … what exactly does it mean to be a mom?
This past weekend was Mother's Day, a time to celebrate the mothers in our lives. For some it's a joyous occasion, while for others it can be a bit more complicated (or even flat out painful).
But there are so many ways to be a mom, no formula to get it "right", and no one single definition of motherhood. For a lot of people motherhood can be a loaded word, so I wanted to explore a little deeper what it means to be a mom - with all of the weight and complexity that word brings.
I was surprised to find out the the word is both a noun and a verb ... a person and an action.
mama bear, fairy godmother, mother nature
There was a time when a village raised a child, each person stepping up in their own way.
Although not a “mother” myself, I do have strong feelings about motherhood. I spent a year as a foster mother, I'm a dog mom, I'm the oldest of 4 siblings, I have loved kids like they were mine, but most importantly I have been mothered: by my own mom, by stand in moms, by mentors, by friends.
Mothers are women who show up everyday … for their kids, for their partners, for their friends, and for themselves (because moms need self-care too!).
Step mother, birth mother, mom … mother earth, mother nature, motherland. Whatever form it takes on, one thing is true ... being a mom isn't for the faint of heart.
Whether you birth a baby or a business, are mothering your own child or are protecting and caring for someone you love, mothering is the act of giving yourself to something, protecting and caring for it with your whole heart.
Motherhood Can Be A Complicated Word
Maybe you mother other people’s kids as a stepmom, foster mom, auntie or teacher
Maybe you aren’t a mother anymore
Or you aren’t a mother yet
Maybe you didn’t mean to be a mom
Or it is your life's purpose
Maybe not being a mother was a choice
Or you can’t be a mother, despite wanting it desperately
A MESSAGE FOR ALL YOU MAMAS: THANK YOU
For being brave, for stepping up, for taking care of us when we're sick, and for loving us unconditionally. Mothers don’t often hear “thank you” for the sacrifices, the effort, or the investment you put in us. We may not say it in the moment, but we do notice all that you do.
Thank you ...
For showing up and giving your all, even when you don't feel like it. Feel like some days you’re failing? That's because you care - and you're doing great. There isn't a way to be a perfect mom but there are a million ways to be a great one. Everyday you show up and give it your all.
Thank you ...
For teaching us the hard lessons. You have a lot of responsibility: should you breastfeed, should you work, should you sleep train? Everyone has a different opinion about what you should do. Ignore them - You got this, go with your gut.
Thank you ...
For all the sacrifices you make that we don't see. For your lack of sleep, time, energy, pre-baby body, sanity. Your job is 24/7 and somehow you still make it look easy.